11 Clear Signs that You Are Still Not Over Your Ex

1. Social media stalking

Signs You Love Your Ex

Are you constantly checking on your ex’s Facebook page for an update? Do you look through all his pictures to make sure he is not seeing another person?

Do you stalk every single one of his social media sites just waiting to see what he has to say? If this sounds like you, you are clearly not over your ex.

2. What do your friends say?

Your friends may know you better than you do. Your friends are the only ones who see who you truly are and they will know if you are over your ex or not. Are you constantly bringing up your ex in conversations that he does not belong in?

Are you constantly mentioning his name to see what your friends have to say? If your friends are telling you that you are not over your ex, they are most likely right.

3. Pictures

Most couples go through the phase of wanting to take pictures together constantly. I mean, obviously you want to show him off to your Facebook friends so you post pictures of you and your sexy man.

Once you break-up those pictures might need to be deleted. If you are keeping pictures of your ex on your Facebook page or any social media site, you might not be over him.

4. Are you sleeping with him?

Trust me, this happens more than you may think. When people break-up, someone will typically propose the idea of staying friends. In most cases, this is the worst proposal ever!

It is nearly IMPOSSIBLE to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for and if you do dare to walk this path, you will probably find yourself sleeping together. Obviously, if this is occurring in your life, you are not over your ex.

5. Presents

Ladies love to receive presents from a boyfriend. It is completely normal. If you are keeping the presents that your ex bought you when you were dating in plain sight at all times, you are not over him.

When you look at those presents you will automatically be reminded of him, which may not help you in your journey of moving on. Put the presents away if at all possible.

6. The dreaded relationship status

Changing your relationship status can be one of the hardest things for some ladies after a break-up.

Laura H shared her story with me and she said – “It took me 45 minutes of staring and plenty of tears to finally change my relationship status on Facebook back to single. Clearly, I was not over my ex and you are not either if you’re experiencing the same thing.”

7. You cry when something reminds you of him

Of course, it is normal for the coffee shop that you met in or the restaurant that you shared your first kiss in reminds you of your ex, but if every song you hear and every place you go reminds you of your ex, you are clearly not over him.

8. You play dress up

This is especially common for women. You may only be going to the grocery store to pick up some eggs and cheese but you wear your cutest outfit along with super high heels and bright red lip gloss in the hopes that you might see your ex. Obviously this will become humorous in the future when your ex is completely out of your mind.

9. You find out where he will be and when

If you have been stalking his social media sites and have come across a post saying “At the beach in the Holiday Inn…” and you feel the urge to go find him, you are not over him.

Theresa has done this as well. One day she saw a Facebook post stating that her ex was going shopping with his brother. She leaped out of her seat, put her cutest clothes on and went to the mall because that’s the only place she thought he would shop. She never found him so use that as a reminder that you will probably only be wasting gas and time.

10. You still text your ex regularly

If you and your ex are texting regularly, you’re probably not over each other.  Sometimes it’s hard to get over someone when you’re still in contact.

11. You watch all of your ex’s favorite shows

Did your ex love Wheel of Fortune and Grey’s Anatomy and now you have to watch every episode (even though before you rarely did)?  This is a clear sign you miss your ex and might not be over him or her.

Getting over your ex can be extremely hard. After a break-up, you need time to heal and move on. If you have participated in any of these actions, you will know that your ex is still a big part of your thought life and you are not allowing yourself to move on.

Source: loveblab.com

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Stay or Let Go?

Have you ever noticed that one thing there never seems to be a shortage of is relationship advice? Every time you turn on the t.v., open a newspaper or magazine or listen to the radio, there is an “expert” giving out advice on relationships.

For that reason, it might seem odd that anyone would have to go online to find some good relationship advice, but it’s not. You see advice is just like anything else; it is only as good as the person who is giving it.

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Just because someone is considered an “expert” doesn’t mean they know what is best for you and your relationship. However, this is not an excuse for you to dismiss what you are told just because you don’t want to hear it either. It is a fine line.

I firmly believe that we all know what we need to do (in our hearts at least) but sometimes we just don’t want to do it. We often know when our relationships are broken beyond repair, but who wants to face that?

Instead we insist on beating a dead relationship and trying to “force” it to work. That is a waste of time and emotion. So, I guess that would be step one in any plan to fix a relationship: make sure it really can be fixed before you waste energy on it.

So, how do you know if it can be fixed? That is actually pretty easy, all you have to do is figure out two things: what is the problem and do you think your partner is willing to work on it with you?

If the problem is a serious one like abuse, it may be best to move on. If your partner is abusing you in any way it will take them quite some time to change, assuming they are even willing to change. In most cases you are probably better off just calling it quits and moving on.

If the problems are not so serious, the next thing you need to determine, with total honesty, is how likely your partner is to work with you on fixing the problems. No one is saying they have to do all the work, but if your partner won’t work with you, you can’t do it all yourself.

At this point you really need a gut check. It can be really difficult to face the fact that your partner is either too self involved or simply doesn’t care enough about the relationship to work with you, but if that is the case do yourself a favor and move on. You will be happier in the long run.

Relationships can definitely be challenging in the best of times, but too often we stay in the wrong relationships with the wrong person just because we are afraid. Afraid of being alone, afraid of hurting someone’s feelings, etc.

But if you stay in that type of relationship, you don’t really have a relationship at all.

Tell-tale Signs that Your Ex Wants You Back

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A break-up is the hardest thing to face, especially when you are in love with your girlfriend and cannot accept the fact that she is now your ex girlfriend.   Most men foolishly dive headlong into depression, start drinking themselves to death and wallow in self pity.  They send out desperate feelers and threats in the hope that their ex will feel sorry and rush back into their arms.

If you are in this situation, do not wear your heart on your sleeve.  Instead start working towards getting your ex girlfriendback.  Once you realize that she is the one for you and you cannot live without her, do and say the right things so that she herself realizes her mistake and decides that she wants you back.

Sending her love letters, asking her forgiveness, using people to state your case are all insane things to do.  Keep your cool, look back at the last few months when you noticed her attention straying and check if the fault was yours.  Once you identify the problem, engage yourself in activity of some sort and try to move on with your life.

You will begin to recognize signs your ex wants you back when she wonders at your silence and tries to get information about your reactions.  If she calls you and asks you to continue being friends, politely decline and put the phone down.  Go out with friends, if you must, not to make her jealous but to be in company so that you do not end up alone at home, brooding. Your friends will tell you, without you trying to spy on her, certain things, which are clear signs your ex wants you back.

When she finally realizes that she was wrong, you will find she is sending out feelers, which are signs your ex wants you back.  This time around, you are the man in command of the situation and you will make the rules.  Your very approach to the whole situation has won you the round and you are now happy and relieved to have her back in your life.